Hole bassist Melissa Auf der Maur explains why she shared that Dave Grohl was first guy to give her an orgasm
Hole bassist Melissa Auf der Maur explains why she shared that Dave Grohl was first guy to give her an orgasm
Raechal ShewfeltTue, March 17, 2026 at 11:11 PM UTC
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Melissa Auf der Maur and Dave Grohl in 2001Credit: Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection via Getty
Rocker Melissa Auf der Maur, who once dated Dave Grohl, recounts in her new book, Even the Good Girls Will Cry: A '90s Rock Memoir, that the Foo Fighters drummer and frontman was the first guy to give her an orgasm.
Auf der Maur, herself a former member of Hole and the Smashing Pumpkins, said she made the share for a very important reason.
"That secret of my life is not revealed for Dave, clearly," Auf der Maur told PEOPLE in a new interview. "That secret is for all women who embark on the mysterious journey of orgasms and the overlooked mystery of women everything."
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After all, she said, the book is her "coming-of-age story as a woman," and she wanted to tell it "for the women."
Auf der Maur dated Grohl from 1999 to 2001 when she was in her late 20s. Grohl is a few years older.
When they split, she walked away with more knowledge than she'd taken into what she had expected to be a short-lived romance.
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Melissa Auf der Maur and Dave Grohl nowCredit: Vito Amati/Getty; Leon Bennett/Getty
"One of the gifts that that relationship gave me was an awareness of how you can have blinders about your own need of unlocking your own code," Auf der Maur said. "It's for the mystery of female orgasm. It's contributing towards the cause."
She marveled that, before Grohl, "no one had ever put so much effort into making me orgasm in my entire life." In fact, she "was not even that into sex."
But he eventually "was the first guy to bring me to climax," she recalled. He did it with "just hands."
Entertainment Weekly has reached out to reps for Grohl for comment.
Auf der Maur shares how she really felt about her time with the artist, who went on to marry Jordyn Blum in 2003.
“I was in love with Dave,” Auf der Maur, who's married to indie filmmaker Tony Stone, told Australia's The Age while promoting her book. "I was someone who cared about his soul. I didn't care about his success. When I broke up with him, I had fear for him because I could see the ambition. I don't necessarily think that Dave is well balanced. I think that he's a nice person who has, due to fame and all of the things that drive people to it, probably lost his way quite a few times. It's a vicious circle and I think he's a victim of it. I think he paid a price."
Even the Good Girls Will Cry: A '90s Rock Memoir is available now at bookstores.
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